When we experience a major life change such as a divorce, death of a spouse, or even a job or location change, often we’ve found many of our social connections have faded away. Friendships are important to our health and happiness. This is true for both men and women. If you have found yourself in the midst of a new life transition, keep reading for tips to get back into the social scene.
Become comfortable going out alone so you can meet people
Just because you don’t have a spouse or a friend available to go out with doesn’t mean you have to stay home alone. If you spend too many evenings at home without company you can begin to lose your confidence or become lonely, and if it continues, develop depression. Isolation is not healthy and should not be allowed to go on for too long.
If you want to get out of the house, bring a book to your favorite cafe and spend time around people. Go and see a movie if you want, regardless if you have someone to accompany you or not. Understand it takes time to make new friends and find new people to spend time with. During this time, allow yourself to discover how much you can enjoy your own company which is a very healthy trait to develop.
In the meantime, while you are enjoying activities by yourself, this opens you up to meeting new people. However, spending time alone in cafes or theaters is not the only strategy; it is also important to get involved in groups and events that will connect you with others who share similar interests.
Join groups and attend events that interest you
If you love (for example) to read or if you’re interested in art, or even if you love high tech or hiking in nature, find events and groups that reflect your interests. Groups and organized events offer a good way to meet others who have similar interests to you.
Don’t let insecurities scare you
If you are interested in getting back into the social scene, chances are you are in your 30s, 40s, or older. This is a time when you should appreciate who you are to a greater extent than ever before. When it comes to friendship or dating, you are now in a phase where you can make good choices for yourself. You have much to offer in terms of wisdom, compassion, and character.
In short, understand your value when making friends and dating. Do not assume the new people you meet will not enjoy your company. Feel confident and let go of any shyness you may feel.
Therapy can help with life transitions
Major life transitions are difficult for everybody, even life transitions that are initiated by you and serve to open the door to a healthier happy life. All change brings a certain level of stress and uncertainty. Therapy will give you support and guidance that will help you navigate your new life and take the steps necessary to bring positive changes. In therapy, you will have a chance to talk about and heal inner issues while forming a plan and strategy to make things better and move forward in the best way possible.